the Inside Out Blog
Where therapy meets real life—writing on healing, belonging, and the wisdom of the body
Spiritual Integration
Integrating spirituality into the counseling process can create this kind of healing movement. We invite you to bring your faith, doubts, emotions and the wisdom of your body into our work together.
Remembering vs. Reliving the Past
Are we remembering them in the present or reliving them in the past? Remembering creates healing and movement, reliving perpetuates rumination and stagnation.
In the Flow
When was the last time you were completely in tune with your body? It is magical. Your thoughts and feelings don’t stick around, they only made passing appearances as your whole being is engrossed in the present moment.
Men, Talking about Real Stuff
I love facilitating a space for men to share what’s going on with them. A space where we talk about real stuff. When was the last time you talked about real stuff that’s going on with you?
Mindfulness for Men
I wanted to share some common symptoms and problems that are often (not always of course) present with males who come into my office:
They have problems with anxiety and stress, and they internalize and absorb this stress
They can’t get out of their head / their mind spins in circles
They are more often than not analyzing / thinking / evaluating future tasks or past problems
They have become increasingly more angry and irritable and notice that they snap at small, trivial things more than they used to
The “Right” Things to Say
When you are either giving or receiving support from a loved one, you feel the pressure to say the right thing. I hear this all the time, and I feel for you. I too have questioned what I should or shouldn't say to a loved one. The more intimate the relationship, the more pressure you feel. It can feel defeating, helpless, hopeless and paralyzing.
Learning to Tell the Whole Story
As a child, you tell yourself the story that preserves your sense of safety: my parents are good and have it all under control. Safety is a primitive, inherent need you have and your growth as a child depends on it. You're completely dependent on your parents and if they weren't good enough and couldn't provide this sense of safety, the fear would capsize your child self and stunt your emotional and interpersonal development.