When you are either giving or receiving support from a loved one, you feel the pressure to say the right thing. I hear this all the time, and I feel for you. I too have questioned what I should or shouldn't say to a loved one. The more intimate the relationship, the more pressure you feel. It can feel defeating, helpless, hopeless and paralyzing.

There is so much pressure on you, as a parent, to be perfect. You've seen the judgmental look of a passerby as you wrangle your child into the car. You know the guilt that comes after reacting in anger to your child's innocent (but annoying) plea for attention.